Posts tagged rape culture
Posts tagged rape culture
Actual quote from this creepy shit talking to my roommate (via calverv)
Maybe they wouldn’t have to worry about their so called “good reputation” if they weren’t human pieces of shit?
I bet he’s a self proclaimed “nice guy”
It’s a story with which we’ve all grown grimly familiar. Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl. Girl doesn’t like boy back. Boy brutally murders girl in retaliation. Boy was owed girl. How dare girl turn boy down?
"Shit like this is why women would rather make up an elaborate lie involving a fake phone number or a fake husband who knows karate than simply tell a man ‘no.’"
Wonder how long it will take for some asshole to pipe up that this wouldn’t have happened if the woman would have just given him a chance.
A collection of just SOME of the hateful comments left on a video report of the #jadapose rape case. For any one who thinks rape apology, victim blaming and rapid victim mistrust aren’t still thriving within our society. I should mention there were also A tonne of people speaking up for and defending Jada, however, there shouldn’t be a need to defend a victim from rape apologists, because that mentality should NOT exist.
SO, everyone is awful
Two basic facts about the internet:
- Unmoderated comment forums are terrible. They get overrun with trolls, low quality content, and off topic remarks.
- If you moderate a comment forum, angry people will argue with you and accuse you of censorship
I’ve had bosses at SEVERAL publications tell me that moderating comments is impossible because it reduces traffic. But no one has ever shown me numbers proving that nugget of conventional wisdom to be true. (Also, is it worth it to sacrifice your employees’ mental health, not to mention the effectiveness of your message, for a marginal uptick in page views?) I can think of several blogs with tightly moderated comments—or no comments at all—that aren’t just staying afloat, they’re thriving. Maybe because the user experience, for both writer and reader, ISN’T A FUCKING GARBAGE HELLSCAPE.
This. When there’s a thread on, say, Jezebel, where someone makes a burner account and then just replies to everybody’s comment with graphic rape GIFs, I’m really glad they disappear almost as soon as they’re posted.
People are trash.
"Don’t Tell Me To Smile: A No-Nonsense Guide to Street Harassment"
If you think this isn’t the damn truth you should know that a few years back, my campus newspaper ran an article that said fat women should be grateful for rape because it’s the only way they’ll ever feel worthy of a man’s attention.
I shit you not.
jfc, what’s sad is I’m actually not surprised at all
26 Male Survivors Of Sexual Assault Quoting The People Who Attacked Them
You know, a few months ago this dude friend of mine showed up to hang out with me all dejected. Over a couple of drinks he explained his long face — earlier that night, he’d been walking down the street behind this really cute girl, and when she looked back at him over her shoulder, he thought it was in interest and smiled at her. Now, this guy is tall and skinny, can most commonly be found in glasses and t-shirts scrawled across with math jokes, is kind to animals, considers himself a feminist. What he doesn’t consider himself is threatening, so he was surprised, confused, and even hurt by what happened next: the girl in front of him responding to his called greeting of, “Nice skirt,” by taking off down the darkened street in a dead run.
"Yeah," I said, "she probably thought you were going to rape her."
"But that’s not fair,” he said. “I’m a good person; I’d never rape anyone! How could she think that? She doesn’t even know me.”
Out here in the wilds of the internet, I often find myself making arguments about shit like feminism and rape culture unilaterally. For one thing, there’s so much (like, so much) out there arguing unilaterally against this shit that I feel it’s necessary; for another thing, ‘round these parts there’s a lot of people jumping to hostility when it’s painfully clear they don’t have a handle on all the facts. But I’m more lenient with the people in my real life, especially dudes like the one mentioned above. I’m willing to extend to them a patience that I wouldn’t with strangers on the internet, because they matter to me, and it matters to me that they understand. So when my friend sat there that night, whining over his beer and responding to my attempted explanations with, “But I’d love it if a girl smiled at me on the street, or even catcalled at me! Fuck, even if a dude did it, I’d be flattered,” I decided to spend some time thinking about how to clear things up for him. It took awhile, but I finally came up with a metaphor to get the job done:
Consider the bank.
This is rape culture
That is fucked up
Why are people so scared of murder? Y’all should feel pride that someone risked life in jail just to kill you
Literally that is how stupid these people sound to me rn
I want to kill them all.
A man is 631 times more likely to become an NFL player than to be falsely accused of rape.
"We end on a serious note. Because 1 in 33 men will be raped in his lifetime, men are 82,000x more likely to be raped than falsely accused of rape. It seems many of us would do well to pay more attention to how rape culture affects us all than be paranoid about false accusers.”
that last paragraph
Or when you openly express doubt of victims, when you declare the problems of a marginalized group to not be real problems, when you dismiss or belittle them, when you hand-wave and pretend like victims of discrimination or assault or harassment are exaggerating, when you behave as though you believe people’s problems are some kind of a mass hallucination because you’ve never experienced them personally… at least one woman (or any person, possibly) you know and love has silently decided she cannot trust you.
A regular client turned good friend was sexually assaulted and asked me if I would go with her to the police station to make the report. Here is what happened.
Things to note:
1. There may be some triggers around sexual assault, victim blaming, and incompetent police officers.
Wow. And people wonder why sexual assaults are underreported.